“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28
You are sitting and staring at a blank wall, overwhelmed, exhausted, and unsure of your next step. What’s even worse? You’re in the middle of a tight schedule with mountain pile deadlines almost mocking you, and you just feel like throwing them all out and running away. You’re there stuck in an endless race and you feel like a hamster running all over again without any concrete destination. What must I do?
1. I’m tired of trying to prove my worth to everyone.
It’s completely natural to be triggered by the naysayers and dream stealers around you to the point where you want to show them that all along, you were right. But what if on the process of trying to gradually build your dreams, results are but slow to come in?
Mindset: It’s one thing to prove them wrong. It’s a different thing to prove yourself right. In the former, it’s eventually exhausting and unsustainable. Why? What if you’ve already proven yourself to them? What’s next? Wouldn’t that burning fire inside you start to perish? Then you go looking for another negative fuel. Not worth it. On the other hand, don’t you think it would be such a good feeling to accomplish something for the sake of winning? That you were right? The moment when you can feel the bliss of undying inspiration and finally tell yourself that you’ve made it? To the point where you’re gonna wanna make it again! Then you exude your unshakeable persistence to do exactly what you were made of, towards having a life without limits!
2. I badly want to fast track everything, be in control and meet my deadline, but it’s exhausting.
Millenials are naturally go-getters. They like to take control and are obsessed with results. They always want a better and faster way of doing things.
Mindset: Haste leads to waste. Treating life like a race is tiring, only to find yourself losing at the end or even halfway of the race. On the other hand, if you want to win BIG towards the end, treat life as a marathon. As such, it requires persistence and grit. Obsessing with the results is one thing. Obsessing with the process is another thing. If you love the grind, while you’re clear that this is the path towards what you want, results will automatically follow. The quotas around you are not necessarily made for you. Set your own standards, but remember, don’t be too hard on yourself.
3. I was once full of dreams and vigor, but now I’m completely lost.
It’s easy to get stuck and feel vulnerable to a society that discourages you to dream big. Studying and being in school is tough. Going out of this box and actually taking the necessary steps, with obstacles and non-believers in front of you is a totally different thing.
Mindset: Tune out negativity. It takes time to learn and constantly practice this, but once you’ve mastered this art, you’ll be almost bulletproof and on your way to achieving your BIG goals despite how crazy they sound to an average person. What should you do when your environment is full of toxicity? Take some rest and go to your favorite place on your own. Reconnect with nature and listen to what it’s trying to tell you. Rekindle the kid inside you and once again believe in the power of your dreams.
Ultimately, look for something that is dependent on you- a pet or a plant that could make you feel needed, want to live, and look forward to better days that are coming. His Almighty’s existence is enough to assure us to let go of the worldly standards, and trust in His plan made especially for us.